VALUES


Values are so important because they fundamentally shape our relationships, our behaviors, our choices, and who we are. So, without knowing what our values are, it is actually impossible to create the lives we want because there is no foundation to build them on. Many can't understand why they do not reach certain goals as they dream. Likewise, some reach goals yet still feel empty and unfilled. Why is that? I believe it is because they have made goals based on outer appearances, what others what from them or what they think they want or should want for themselves. The goals in essence do not match with what the heart desires.



So much emphasis is placed on making goals and reaching them, but not too much is said about values. I suggest that if one's values are not determined and in place, making goals and achieving them will prove worthless. Goals that are achieved without a core foundation will leave you feeling empty every time because the goals and achievements are not in alignment with whom you really are.

It stands to reason then that if you determine your values first to help clarify and confirm what it is that is truly important in life. Then question of values if often overlooked, too, it seems such a huge and impossible question to answer. The word "value" is so easily and loosely used, but when I ask a client, "So what are your values?" they come up tongue-tied almost every time. In fact they do not fully understand what a value is. Values and goals often get mixed up too. It is true! Where does one start?

COACHING QUESTION OF THE DAY
What do your values need to be for you to create the lifestyle of your choice?

4 comments:

grabsomehealthnews said...

Hi Christine,
Love your new blog, and Happy Holidays. Values and goals CAN easiy get mixed up. After reading, I've done some thinking, and suddenly I can see that some things become a waste of time. For instance, I value nature and outdoor activities more than the latest fashion trends, so why not spend my pennies to cultivate my garden, or a new Kayak, right?

December 29, 2008 9:23 AM
Christine said...

Greetings Karen :) Wow! Brilliant to see ya here. And Thank you!
Happy Holiday- I wish you Love, Prosperity and Wellness this year.

2008 has been a challenging year and I think all of us are ready to start off the New Year in 2009 with a new attitude and sense of determination.

So true... my friend, I think for all of us at some point need to revisit "Values and Goals." I love those Ahhh ha moments. Cultivate away Karen and treat yourself to that new Kayak :)

Cheers!
Christine :)

January 2, 2009 9:23 AM
Brenda Leyland said...
This comment has been removed by the author. January 7, 2009 7:11 PM
Brenda Leyland said...

Hi, I just found your blog! A very lovely place to visit and be inspired. Good thoughts about goals and values. I'm learning about the difference myself, and realize that's probably why so many of my goals in past years didn't happen -- my heart wasn't really in them -- I just thought it was the 'right' thing to do. Didn't realize it wasn't 'right' for ME! But I'm learning.

I'll come again. Joy and more joy as the New Year begins!

January 7, 2009 7:13 PM

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